A little history 12/28 am

My purpose for writing this today is to keep everybody who loves Guy Arbogast up to date on his life and struggles with cancer.

Most know his history: He was diagnosed with squamous cell carcinoma of his tongue in May 2017. He had major surgery to remove the tumor, reconstruct his tongue and remove the lymph nodes from his neck, May 25, 2017. He started chemo and radiation after healing from surgery. That was July 10, 2017. It was the most brutal 8 weeks a man could endure. His last treatment was August 18. He was burned and battered and lost his sense of taste but came through with his best fighter instinct intact. He needed to use every ounce of strength during that time.

Afterwards he got back up dusted himself off and continued to heal and enjoy life again. We resumed as best we could. Our life mostly revolves around family and friends and it continued to do so. Arb and I had a great trip to brother Pete’s house to see Van Morrison in concert. Of course we made our annual trip to Palm Desert to enjoy Thanksgiving with Arb’s family and the Simbro clan(cousins).

The damn tide turned on a regular follow up visit to his surgeon, a small lump was found on his neck. Given his history it required a biopsy. Unfortunately a new complication developed before he could get the biopsy. His blood work revealed a dangerously high calcium level. What the heck does that mean? After a 10 hr trip through the hospital ER he was admitted and given meds to bring that level down.

Of course the problem was not just the calcium level but what was the underlying cause? His oncologist ruled out all the easy possibilities and that left only – this kind of cancer or that kind of cancer. This sent us all reeling and lots of tears as we faced the possibilities. The PET scan revealed his cancer had metastasized to several sites…lung lymph nodes, spine, pelvis and in his neck again. The biopsy showed it is the same squamous cell carcinoma.  I’m don’t really use swear words but this would be an appropriate time.  My reaction- just straight unrestrained terror.

About Arb’s attitude: I think that lying awake night after night he has been examining his life. When he was given this news his commment was that “he is a blessed man” He was able to handle it with strength and faith in God’s plan. He is and has always been the toughest person I know. His health is deteriorating rapidly. He is eating very little and has a very hard time swallowing without choking. He muscles hurt as does his back and hips. In the last few days he has developed some significant cognitive changes, he is often unaware of where he is.

So that leads us to today. We have a meeting with his oncologist at 10. I suppose we are going to discuss a plan going forward. I hope that immunotherapy or a clinical trial will give him some quality in whatever time he has left. Right now I am uncertain if that means days, weeks months or years. I am hoping for years! Right now he is sleeping restlessly, I will wake him when we need to go.

I would like to use this site to communicate to all Guys friends and family. I will update as I know things. Please give everyone this web address:

http://Arbofamily.blog

Pray for him, please.

17 thoughts on “A little history 12/28 am

  1. So many prayers being lifted up and a tremendous amount of love for the Arbogast family. Prayers for strength, healing, comfort and peace and wisdom for the medical team.

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  2. Dearest Arbo family,
    Your friends and family are with you in loving spirit and caring hugs. I’m a friend from your daughter’s early sports days and a mom who gets to walk with you Lee when time allows. Peter and I are holding you all in our thoughts and prayers. I join others to offer whatever support you would like. Lee you are one of the strongest women I know I hope to be a person you can call on. Love to you. Heidi

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  3. Dear Lee, Guy, Kate & Matt,

    I’m sending the most intense love to each of you from my living room in Portland. I’m thinking of each of you and holding you deeply in my heart and thoughts. Love and love and love.

    Raya

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  4. Not a better person than Arbo! Yes, blessed man, as say I, the recipient of his blessing of friendship.

    Prayers and encouragement for miracles and a great immunotherapy!

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  5. Prayers to you Arbo and your family. You were Ken’s biggest advocate and cheerleader when he went through his cancer ordeal and now we will do the same for you. I will never forget how you continually reached out to Ken to lend your support. Ken used to joke that you were in 1st place in terms of cancer caregiving (even ahead of me). We love you and are praying for healing!

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  6. Comment: I’m a classmate of Guy’s. We were the 2 milers on the team. Guy always took 1st. We would finish practice & then he would do his own workout. Tough and always able to go the distance.
    1 Corinthians 9:24-25
    Hebrews 12:1
    You are in my thoughts & prayers.
    Fr. Joe Fitzgerald, Crespi ’74

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  7. To my ex roommates, Lee and Guy my thoughts and prayers are with you. What a strong man with a great sense of humor.
    Get well Guy, we need people like you on this planet!

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  8. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know it’s been a long time but always have cherished the time we spent studying at CU!!

    Prayers
    Carl Worthington, Jr

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  9. Lee,
    I am heartbroken to hear this news. You, Arbo, and the rest of your family are in my prayers. He is a tough man and I am confident that he will be one of the “one in three”! Love and prayers, Ike

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  10. My son,Max, played soccer with Matt throughout high school. Although I met Matt on a few occasions, I felt I knew him best through Max who thought, and still thinks, highly of your son.

    I followed his soccer career and early entry to OSU through Max. I felt grateful for Matt’s presence in Max’s life. It was friends like Matt that helped Max to be the person he is today.

    I just heard of your husband’s fight with cancer a few moments ago. Wanted to send your family our love and prayers. You may not think so now, but you are a strong woman. Your husband is right, he has been blessed. We know you have a lot of family and friends supporting you right now. Know that people that have been lucky enough to know your family, even if only vicariously through Matt, are thinking of you now.

    Our thoughts are with you during this incredible difficult journey.

    Brigitta Hawes

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